Oh, Honeys! July is heating up to be a sexy month.
Not only is it steaming hot and screaming for as little clothing as possible as we reach the very peak of Summer’s fiery spell, but we’ve got two full moons happening this month as well. It’s the perfect time to take a deeper look into how the moon affects our erotic desires, sexual expressions, and overall carnal natures.
In witchcraft, the moon symbolizes the Goddess. It’s a symbol of the Divine Feminine, that tantalizing, lifegiving, and gravitational force that exists within each and every one of us.
The moon also rules energy, namely our emotional and spiritual energy. The various phases of the moon (new, waxing, full, waning) therefore all have a corresponding energetic effect on different aspects of our Earthly beings. As sex is an energetic expression and one that is undeniably emotional and spiritual, it is no surprise that tuning into the lunar phases can elevate and enhance our sexual self-expression. The moon’s cycle syncs up with our own fertility cycle; estrogen levels begin to rise during a waxing moon and reach their highest peak at the full moon. By tuning in to the cycles of the moon, we can heighten and enhance our own sexual activities for maximum payoff.
You don’t need to know a lot about lunar magic to know that a full moon affects human behavior in a palpable way. I mean, we’ve all seen Teen Wolf right? But did you know that during a full moon our feelings of aggression, lust, and physical activity are at their most intense? I like to think of the full moon as nature’s aphrodisiac. Take advantage of this supercharged event to celebrate the sexual entity that you are and become one with the Divine Feminine embodied, in all of Her sexual splendor. Dance down the moon. Find a room with a lot of open space, or better yet go outside. Make yourself skyclad (translation: naked). Put on some moodenhancing tunes. Start to move your body in time to the music. Focus your attention on the moon overhead and envision the light of the moon slowly filling your body, replacing your organs, your blood, your bones with pure divine light. You are a luminescent, moonfilled being. You are the Goddess. As you dance, let this moonlight be transformed into sexual energy. With every step, every movement you are synthesizing and transforming the light of the Divine Feminine and releasing it as sexual energy into the world around you. Dance until you climax or feel you have been completely transformed from your human form into pure sexual power.
The waning moon is a beautiful time to look within; it is a time of release, of letting go, of listening to our hearts rather than our heads. Sexually speaking, the waning moon is a great time to nurture our innermost carnal desires and cultivate our own erotic nature. A wonderful activity to engage in during this moon phase is a little self-lovin’. Explore your deepest fantasy and treat yo’ self to some steamy and decadent self-affection. Physically touching yourself and tuning into your body’s energy field can be a great way to release old patterns and make way for new experiences and pleasures that we otherwise may not have been aware of. Feel the crystal vibrations. We already know that rocks and stones and minerals emit powerful energy pulses that can either enhance or dispel various human states of emotion, consciousness, and activity. So why not employ the magic of crystals to enhance your sexual experience as well? Find a smooth wand made from a crystal that is energetically associated with sexuality and/or female empowerment (garnet, rose quartz, carnelian to name a few). Charge the wand with your sexual intention by holding it in the palm of your hand, focusing your energy on it, and naming your intention out loud. Engage in your favorite expression of selflove with your wand; as it touches and enters various parts of your body, tune into the unique vibrations the stone has to offer. Let these vibrations fill you, empower you, transform you. Enjoy an amplified orgasm and the deep energetic release that accompanies crystal healing. Bonus tip: crystal wands are so aesthetically pleasing, they can be left out on your coffee table guilt -free between self-celebration sessions.
The new moon is all about beginnings; what new avenues do you want to explore within your sexuality? This is the time to be daring, to try something new. That could be having a sexy fling with an enigmatic stranger or trying out something kinky with a familiar partner.
Harness the sense of adventure that follows a new moon in creative and boundary-pushing ways by getting outside of your comfort zone, if only for an evening.
Try on a new persona. Partnered or solo, explore new ways of being. Buy a wig, put on a costume, become someone else for a period of time that feels good to you. What archetype have you always secretly wanted to embody? Become the Goddess in all her many forms and spend some time luxuriating in yourself as an expression of the Divine Feminine. Additionally, what preconceptions do you need to release and reimagine?
Reclaim the negative words that are often thrust on us from society and turn them into empowering, arousing gifts. Let roleplay dissolve your inhibitions and make a move you otherwise wouldn’t. Be bold. Demand your pleasure. Reap the benefits and expand your horizons. Maybe you will learn something new about yourself or your partner that will unfold lasting benefits for your daily sex life?
The waxing moon is the time to raise energy with a purpose. It’s great for manifestation, dreams, anything constructive and productive such as making a conscious intention to attract a certain sort of love into your life. Instead of making a vision board with cutouts and postit notes, you can make more energetic use of this time by trying out a little “sex magic” an embodied and energetic way of manifesting something tangible in the physical realm through sexual release.
Intensify your sexual connection through direct eye contact. With a partner, undress. Sit facing one another crosslegged, knees touching. Stare intently into each others’ eyes. Engage in sexual activity from start to finish without losing eye contact. Use your intuition and sense of touch to explore one another’s bodies and slowly and intentionally work up to your desired level of penetration. Stay in this seated position the entire time; have one person move towards the other and intertwine your lower halves. As you build towards a climax begin, to breathe in time with one another. Maintain eye contact throughout orgasm; you will likely climax at the same time, and more intensely, with this exercise.