It is no secret that the rocks, minerals, and metals of Earth possess a deep and ancient set of metaphysical and energetic powers. Used for healing, protection, manifestation, astral communication, and of course, attracting love, crystals have been part of our civilizations and cultures for centuries. Ancient Egyptians crafted intricate and powerful amulets from carnelian, lapis lazuli, malachite, and emeralds. Cleopatra used to adorn her eyelids in powdered lapis to attract suitors and the kohl eyeliner that we know and love for getting that perfect smoky eye used to be made from ground up galena ore.
Crystals can acquire an electric charge when compressed, twisted, or distorted. In this way, crystals act as resonators and transducers of energy. Gemstones are composed of atomic particles in a crystalline structure; lattices that mimic the hexagonal patterns in human DNA. Metals naturally conduct electricity and energy.
There’s a crystal for every kind of energy you are looking to manifest or increase within your own body. Naturally, this includes sexual energy. Below are some of the best stones for getting your freak on, as well as a few ideas on how to work with them like a true gem mistress.
Choosing a stone
The best stones for raising sexual energy are usually associated with the Sacral chakra, as well as to the element of Fire. Stones to heal sexual trauma and to restore self-confidence and self-love are usually connected to the Heart chakra and the element of Water. Stones for getting into your body and embracing the more physical sensations of sexual energy are usually related to the Root chakra and the element of Earth. For revving up your sexual imagination and adventurous play, focus on stones affiliated with the element of Air and the Third Eye chakra.
Above all, however, you want to find a stone that vibrates to your own personal sex frequency. There’s a stone for all personality types and desired sexual energies, from the demure to the ferocious. If none of the stones listed below get your libido purring, then look elsewhere. Trust your intuition – any stone can be a sex stone as long as you feel a carnal connection to it.
ROSE QUARTZ
Open your Heart Chakra and raise your self-love vibrations with this petal pink crystal that looks like clouds of cotton candy floating across the sky. Associated with the goddess Venus, ruler of beauty, love, and sex, rose quartz is a bonafide amulet for increasing amorous vibes and helping you feel like the dreamy and voluptuous sex goddess that you are. Pairs well with chocolate, satin or velvet loungewear, and some Portishead.
GARNET
Connect with the delicious curves of your physical body by focusing on your Root chakra and falling into the deep sanguine abyss that is garnet. This ancient and lustful gemstone is associated with the Egyptian goddess Sekhmet, queen of carnal pleasures and the intense heat of the Sun. Garnet is certain to raise the physical sensations connected to sexual exploration and release your inhibitions. Pairs well with red wine, a leather body harness, and some Siouxsie and the Banshees.
RHODOCHROSITE
Give your Sacral and Heart chakras a dual boost with this lovely stone that carries with it both Fire and Water energies. If you’re looking for some heat that’s hot but not too fiery – think Florida in January – then this is the stone for you. It is a beautiful ally for raising sexual self-confidence and acceptance while still stimulating the urge to merge. Pairs well with champagne and strawberries, a vintage slip, and some Nancy Sinatra.
CARNELIAN
A stone once used in the breastplates of the High Priestesses of ancient civilizations, carnelian is a Fire stone that is related to the Sacral and Solar Plexus chakras. The goddess associated with this stone is Isis, regal mother goddess of fertility and creation. Carnelian is a fast-acting, powerful escalator of sexual energy and prowess, assisting you in radiating sensuality from the center of your being in a sovereign, empowered state. Pairs well with juicy exotic fruits, a nude body dripping in jewels, and some Beyonce.
SERPENTINE
Make like a serpent and pulse your Kundalini energy into ecstasy with this lovely little green stone found in abundance right here in Washington State. Serpentine is a Root and Sacral chakra stone that is more fiery than it is earthy. It is excellent for masturbation and tantric sex – basically any sexual activities where you can ethereally bliss out on meditative stimulation for extended periods of time. Pairs well with coconut water (gotta replenish those electrolytes!), snakeskin heels, and some FKA Twigs.
RUBY
Slinky and darkly seductive, ruby gems work a number of your chakras including the Heart, Root, Sacral, and Solar Plexus. This gem-of-many-faces resonates with the Celtic dark mother goddess The Morrigan, herself a multi-faced deity of intense power and ferocity. Call on ruby when you need to get shadowy, aggressive, and courageous in your sexual adventures. Pairs well with whiskey, a latex bodysuit, and some Lana Del Ray.
Attuning to your stone
Hold your stone in your hand, or better yet place your stone on the chakra it corresponds to (if more than one, select the one you’d most like to raise the energy of). Close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths and center yourself. If you are distracted or stressed, you can envision the breath coming in as white light and the breath leaving your body as grey or black light. Continue breathing until the air flow in and out of your body is white in all directions. Concentrate on your stone. Try to imagine the quality of the stone you are most focused on cultivating. When you can clearly see this quality in your mind’s eye, begin to envision it radiating out of the stone as a colored ray of light (you choose the color) and into your physical body. See your body, especially the chakra you are most focused on awakening, fill with this colored light. When you are so full that it is seeping out of your pores and your auric field, thank your stone and open your eyes. 
Getting physical with your stone
Once you’ve selected your stone and attuned to its sexual energies, you can use your stone in your physical activity. For solo and partnered activity alike, it is a great idea to purchase your stone specimen in the form of a massage wand. These come in smooth, cylindrical shapes, as well as curved, squiggly, and oval forms and can be inserted into the vagina and anus as well as used externally to stimulate erogenous zones. They are also safe for water play. Be sure to select a non-porous and polished wand for internal stimulation, in a stone like carnelian, rhodochrosite, rose quartz, or serpentine. The more crystalline and less structurally dense gems like ruby, garnet, and pink tourmaline are better suited for external-only use. Any of the stones can be purchased in palm-stone form, which is commonly a polished oval or spherical shape that fits in the palm of one’s hand and can be used to externally massage areas of the physical body as well as placed on specific body parts for energetic effect. Whatever way you choose to physically incorporate your stones into your sex play, make sure to clean them before and after use in water and a gentle, non-abrasive cleanser. You can also soak your stones in a solution of sea salt and warm water for about 5-10 minutes to cleanse in between sessions.
